I don't know how many books Cheap Diamondbacks Jerseys , articles, manuals and scripts have been written on that topic. But, I am sure that now there is one more. So why do I dare to write another one? Because I have to contribute a different perspective. I found that all these "how-to" writings about speaking focus on 2 basic things:
1. How to overcome the fear of speaking in public
2. How to write and deliver great speeches.
Both attempts focus around techniques. They are well intended receipts, cook-book like laundry lists of ingredients and more or less good description on how to put all that stuff together to come up with an edible meal.
Yet, if you want to be a cook you don't start with reading receipts but with developing a love for your area of expertise.
Think about it Caleb Joseph Diamondbacks Jersey , have you ever heard about someone that was exceptional in his area without deeply loving what she does? I haven't. If you want to be successful and a top professional in whatever you chosen to become your profession you need to have a deep love for the subject or you eventually will fail.
Without passion for what you do the pain of learning and repeating the required skills eventually will become paramount and stop you before you achieve the heights of true professionalism.
So, this is not an article for someone that wants to learn how to prepare fast food, but for those that might have a hidden desire to become great speakers.
If you want to become good at speaking, you need to have a desire to become good and a passion for your subject matter. No technique ever can replace that. It is a prerequisite and techniques are the ways you do it.
There are a lot of myths around speaking and even more around the techniques. Stage fright is a one of the favorite topics for techniques that mostly have been given birth at a writer's desk rather than being the essence of experience. What is stage fright anyway?
Stage fright is nothing more and nothing less than insecurity.
If you feel insecure, you start fearing. If you feel unconfident David Peralta Diamondbacks Jersey , you start fearing. If you believe you will fail ? if you still have the concept of failure in your mind ? you start fearing.
Nothing special with stage fright though. And because stage fright is just another fear, the cure is the same as for any other fear.
Get confident, get passionate, built self-esteem.
How do you get confident? Know your outcome and have a plan to go from where you are to where you want to be.
Translated to a speech that means, know what you want the audience to learn Ketel Marte Diamondbacks Jersey , have a good knowledge about the topic you are going to talk about and have a clear, precise map (your script) about where to start, where to end and what to say in between.
If you have these basics in place, your confidence will be as high as possible and you managed to eliminate the first reason for stage fright, lack of confidence.
Ok Jarrod Dyson Diamondbacks Jersey , but how can I get passionate about my topic you might ask? Well, if your topic doesn't excite you how can you belief it might excite someone else?
Unless you find something exciting about your topic you won't convey your message anyway. Bottom-line is, if you don't have to share something exciting don't share it, don't deliver a speech on it.
The good news is that there is something exciting in every topic. Just look long enough, change the perspective Curt Schilling Diamondbacks Jersey , increase the frame, be curious and you will find something you can become passionate about.
Now, we are confident and passionate but still there is one major reason for stage fright left.
Little self-esteem.
This is a hard one, isn't it? How to raise self-esteem?
Agreed this is not as easy as getting confident and passionate. But, managing this part is much more rewarding Luis Gonzalez Diamondbacks Jersey , as it will impact your whole being.
If you belief that you are mediocre or worse unworthy you have to change that belief. If you have the belief those others are better and that being better means worth more than you, you have to change that belief.
If you don't, you will depend on what you think the others might think about you and be sure this thought is not very appealing. Not because the others might think bad things about you, most don't even care enough about you to have second thoughts anyway, but because you tend to think others think little of you. It is you that produces your thoughts.
This is not an article about changing limiting belief systems Zack Greinke Diamondbacks Jersey , but unless you develop a healthy self respect and the idea that you have something to say, you will not have a remedy for stage fright.
There are several concepts or beliefs that raise self esteem. Some of them are:
?I am as important as any other human being but not more.
?I have more experience in what I talk about than anyone else in the audience. (Which is always true even if there are subject matter experts in the audience, because you wrote the speech not them)?
?There is no failure only feedback.
?If someone else can do it, I can do it too given I use the resources and develop the skills that someone used.
?I am a passionate and powerful person
? No one in this world is above or beneath me
? I have to contribute something to others
Once you have high enough self esteem and a well prepared speech on a subject matter you feel confident about, you will not have stage fright anymore.
But Adam Jones Diamondbacks Jersey , please don't misinterpret excitement with stage fright. Every time I give a speech, I am totally energized. My body starts producing adrenalin and I am really excited.