even if they didn’t want to, because guys should always be “down to f–k.” Rejecting an invitation to sex was considered unmanly or “gay.” Enlarge Image"Boys & Sex" When young men have sex forced upon them, it sends mixed signals — and makes it harder for them to understand the concept of consent altogether. “If they can’t say no,” Orenstein writes, “how are they supposed to hear it?” The solution for all this isn’t what most parents want to hear: They need to have a straightforward talk with their sons about sex. “I know it’s awkward, I know it’s excruciating. I know it’s unclear where to begin,” Orenstein writes. “But this is your chance to do better.” Mason agrees, and he can remember the exact moment where some parental intervention would’ve made a difference. He was a teenager, sitting on the basement couch of his family’s home and browsing porn on his school-supplied iPad. His father walked .